January 7, 2020

It’s the New Year already WOW that came fast – now it’s time to set a WHOLE bunch of New Years’ resolutions that I know I’m not going to keep after the first week. Sometimes they will stick for the whole month of January but more times than not they dwindle to the wayside by mid-January.
Not this year baby, Fuck that shit I’m tired of spending all that time and energy and then end up beating myself up in the end. That’s productive and healthy. NOT!!
This year I’m doing something new I’m not setting goals I’m setting feelings/values on how do I want to feel or how do I value myself by making this choice.
I’m talking about core feelings or core values however you resonate.
How do you want to feel in the deepest part of your being?
What feelings make you come alive?
What feelings make you feel more aligned with your true self, and consequently closer to your higher belief, whether it be God, Universe, Source, the Divine (whatever is your thing)?
Mine are for January 2020: Confident, Genuine, Abundance, Empowered, TURNED ON!
Candace have you fallen and bumped your head??? NOPE! Just tired of the continuous rat race in my head and how I feel when I don’t accomplish something or the way I treat myself compared to how I treat myself when I accomplish it.
Let me explain, here’s a resolution I normally pick each and every year and 100% fall off the wagon by the end of January, workout 5 times a week.
We all want to have a certain HIGH when we accomplish a goal but if we aren’t clear on exactly how we really want to feel the excitement and determination tend to diminish because there is nothing to work towards. It’s easy to give up on something when there is no feeling attached to it. Make sense?!?! Excellent!
So for myself when I set my goal to workout 5 times a week well it’s easy to brush it off because I haven’t set how this will make me feel when I accomplish it. Now that I have my feelings/values when I decide to brush it off I can take a step back and look inwards and say ok by brushing this off how does this decision help me towards my end goal, the end way I want to feel.
I know everyone is thinking YUP that’s easier said than done, I have kids, work, husband, volunteering etc. etc. etc. etc. Of course, it’s not easy but this process isn’t about being easy it’s about doing the work for YOURSELF and making sure that YOU are the one that is being taken care of first and foremost.
I’m not going to sit here and tell you this is going to change your life within the first week NOPE it’s going to take time, patience, and work. But just remember YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!
OK so let’s get down to business here are a few questions and steps to help you discover your core feelings, core values.
In response to the following questions, list how you want to feel. After you answer the questions, notice the commonalities—your feelings/values are in the answers.
How do you want to feel within the category of…
1. livelihood and lifestyle?
2. body and wellness?
3. creativity and learning?
4. relationships and society?
5. essence and spirituality?
So tell me: how do you want to feel?
Here is a list of words that I went through and just said out loud and wrote down which ones felt right to me. This took me about 30 minutes to go through the list and when I was done I had 35, so then I went through the 35 words and said each out loud and just sat with them for a minute or so. I did this a few times until I had my list down to 10 words and then with those 10 words I wrote each out looked up the definition and wrote out the definition and then posted the list on my fridge where I could walk by for a couple of days and just see which ones are Nope and which are HELL YES! You want to have between 3 and 5 feelings/values. Remember these will change as you grow, I did my first list in September which those were: Fulfilled, Sexy, Accountable.
So are you ready to grab that coffee, glass of wine or whatever your preference is and start getting down to the nitty-gritty to find out how you REALLY want to feel?
  • Intentional
  • Valued
  • Guided
  • Flexible
  • Relevant
  • Prosperous
  • Welcomed
  • Magnetic
  • Capable
  • Heart-Reaching
  • Overflowing
  • Untangled
  • Emergent
  • Beaming
  • Radiant
  • Weightless
  • Connected
  • Strong
  • Expansive
  • Free
  • Transformed
  • Purposeful
  • Easy-Going
  • Light-Hearted
  • Ready
  • Receptive
  • Creative
  • Organic
  • Masterful
  • Fluid
  • Electric
  • Majestic
  • Unstoppable
  • Limitless
  • Gracious
  • Infinite
  • Cosmic
  • Graceful
  • Unforgettable
  • Fluent
  • Conscious
  • Open
  • Sensual
  • Grounded
  • Rooted
  • Attractive
  • Generous
  • Magical
  • Trailblazing
  • Ecstasy
  • Euphoric
  • Intuitive
  • Cleansed
  • Expressive
  • Vivacious
  • Joyous
  • Nourished
  • Crowned
  • Home
  • Welcoming
  • Peaceful
  • Compassionate
  • Inspiring
  • Electrifying
  • Influential
  • Passionate
  • Flourishing
  • Tuned-In
  • Effervescent
  • Shimmering
  • Starry-Eyed
  • Dreamy
  • Lavish
  • Zest
  • Blossoming
  • Affluent
  • Clever
  • Warm-Hearted
  • Warm
  • Glowing
  • Fascinating
  • Mesmerizing
  • Liberated
  • Golden
  • Elevated
  • Luscious
  • Insightful
  • Feisty
  • Enterprising
  • Assertive
  • Hired
  • Blessed
  • Adorned
  • Showered
  • Brilliant
  • Proactive
  • Imaginative
  • Expectant
  • Lucrative
  • Timeless
  • Resilient
  • Steady
  • Open-Minded
  • Loyal
  • Lucent
  • Attentive
  • Appreciative
  • Balanced
  • Genius
  • Fulfilled
  • Affectionate
  • Clear
  • Boundless
  • Joyful
  • Kind
  • Natural
  • Positive
  • Thoughtful
  • Sure
  • Sultry
  • Hypnotic
  • Harmonious
  • Focused
  • Love
  • Poetic
  • Refreshed
  • Pure
  • Miraculous
  • Empowered
  • Authentic
  • Beautiful
  • Deep-Rooted
  • Deserving
  • Pampered
  • Secure
  • Treasured
  • Whole
  • Vast
  • Lucid
  • Luxurious
  • Fortunate
  • Enriched
  • Fierce
  • High-Flying
  • Healed
  • Untamed
  • Unconditional
  • Soulful
  • Inspired
  • Adventurous
  • Alive
  • Direct
  • Embraced
  • Devoted
  • Deep
  • Gifted
  • Fruitful
  • Triumphant
  • Spontaneous
  • Renewed
  • Unshackled
  • Saged
  • Awake
  • Captivated
  • Charasmatic
  • Confident
  • Diamond
  • Illuminated
  • Well-Off
  • Wild
  • Soul-Fueled
  • Bold
  • Auspicious
  • Courageous
  • Inviting
  • Nurtured
  • Serene
  • Soft
  • Spiritual
  • Anchored
  • Useful
  • Supported
  • Celebrated
  • Healthy
  • Engaged
  • Lion-Hearted
  • Independent
  • Pleasure
  • Prominent
  • Exhilerated
  • Turned ON

August 16, 2019

I was driving yesterday and noticed the leaves changing colour on a couple of the trees and immediately I started grumping and complaining that summer is creeping to an end. 

But then I caught myself and started thinking what am I complaining about, seriously fall is an amazing time of year.  The beautiful colours, all of the fresh veggies from the garden, canning, sitting by the fire on cool evenings, comfort foods (oh how I love homemade soup), comfy sweaters, oh heck my list is endless.

Then I took it one step farther and thought of the wonderful things that come with winter, the first snow fall, skating outside, hoar frost, playing board games in front of the fireplace, etc. and then all of a sudden it’s spring and well you get the point.

There is good and bad for every situation in life so be grateful for the things you can do, and don’t worry about the things you can’t.  The same principle can be applied to our seasons: Be grateful for the good things they offer you, as well as the challenging ones.

July 28, 2019

It’s so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, the negativity, all the work that’s piling up either in our career or our own personal life. I know for myself I can be sitting enjoying my morning coffee not a care in the world, not a thought in sight, listening to the birds or my dog snoring when all of a sudden BANG it’s like the world has come crashing down. It starts with oh I should do some weeding today, oh right and there is some laundry that should get done, oh frick I did I pay that water bill??? (You get the picture) With each thought my chest starts to tighten, my mind starts racing and then without any notice I’m stressed, panicking and running around getting upset at the most ridiculous things over a few SIMPLE thoughts.
Why does this happen? Well for one reason it’s because we as a society/generation whatever you would like to call us we do not live in the present moment. We have come to expect immediate results and gratification and when we don’t get what we want immediately well we are off trying to figure out how we can do that. It’s a continuous rat race, running around in circles as if we are a hamster running on it’s wheel. At no point do we ever go HUH well maybe it was meant to be this way, maybe we should just sit and enjoy this moment. This is called our EGO and it’s a nasty little bugger that won’t stop because it will never be satisfied.
Our ego’s job is to dangle a carrot in front of our nose to guide us down a path to achieve a goal and when we achieve that goal GREAT! But not great because within minutes our ego is hungry for more and it doesn’t want to stop. It’s like an unmedicated person with ADHD as long as they are on a path that they will achieve a goal then they are happy, once they are off that path BANG they are onto something else.
So how do we stop this vicious circle? Well I personally use grounding techniques. Here are a couple of my personal favourites.
Spend time each day just sitting and taking in life no electronics just sit and listen to the birds, hold your cup while smelling your coffee, etc.
Run your hands under or splash your face with cold water
Walk barefoot in the grass outside (obviously if weather permits)
Remind yourself who you are and say it out load 4-5 times
Go for a walk and notice the trees, the flowers, the wind, the air, the snow, whatever the season notice things around you.
Breathe! Take a nice deep inhale, hold and then exhale – do this a few times.

July 1, 2019

When you think of Spirituality for most people the first thing that comes to mind is God or religion. Some people also think of being connected to the cosmic life.
To me spirituality is becoming more connected with yourself on a deeper level so you are able to deal with the chaotic world around you in a calmer way.
GREAT, so where do we start this magical journey of a more connected calmer self?!?! I’m glad you ask… We are going to start with meditation. ***commence the groaning and eye rolling*** 🤪🤪
Believe me I get it you have all the reasons and excuses as to why you don’t want to meditate – I don’t think there is one out there that I didn’t use myself. But the reality is meditation is one of the top 3 things you can do to keep yourself healthy. The other 2 are physical activity and nutrition. I personally rank meditation out of the 3 as the top because if you don’t have a clear mind/vision nothing else matters and you will not achieve your fullest potential.
OK FINE I’ll play along with your silly meditation what do I need to do.
1. Pick a time that you can devote about 10 to 15 mins each morning uninterrupted. My ideal time for meditation is 5:15 am because during the week hubby is on his way out the door shortly after this so the house is quiet. Even on the weekends I try to stick to this time – but if all else fails weekends are at 6:15 am. This may mean you have to set your alarm 15 mins earlier or maybe you just decide to not hit the snooze button 10 times.
2. VERY IMPORTANT – pick a spot in your home (not your bed or bedroom) and make it your own Zen/meditation area. The reason behind this is so you are happy to go there and sit. My spot is in my “Healing Room” where I do my BodyTalk sessions because well I love that room and what it stands for. Anyways I purchased a couple of throw pills so this way I can put them off to the side after I’m done. Some of you may have an area where you can keep it set up but that’s not me.
3. Make sure you use headphones/ear buds they are very helpful to keep your mind focused.
4. IMPORTANT! Set everything up the night before. 
Take a few minutes to set everything up (ie: phone, laptop what ever you are going to use for the video). I also put my throw pills on the floor, fill a cup with water and some lemon juice I put in the microwave so all I have to do is press start in the morning.
5. Morning – RISE, PEE, MEDITATE! Every morning I have my alarm set for 5 am. I get up, press start on the microwave, pee, chat with hubby for a few minutes and then go sit in my room and get comfy while drinking my hot lemon water. It takes me about 3-4 minutes to get comfy.
6. Enjoy! If you treat this like it’s a chore it will be and you will have a hard time reaping all the benefits.
I’m not asking you to meditate for hours on end 10 – 15 mins each day will be just perfect and if you decide later to start increasing GREAT but if not that’s cool.
For myself I do guided meditation because I find it easier to focus and clear the mind chatter.
Here is the guided meditation we are going to use:
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The Magician’s Way has been on my reading radar for a few weeks already. It was recommended by an instructor of mine as I have been a little overwhelmed as of late.
Here is a little information about it off www.amazon.com.
Mark Vale is besieged by financial and marital turmoil when he meets a group of contemporary alchemists. They take him on an astonishing journey and teach him to transform difficult situations into golden opportunities.
Mark learns from wonderfully unlikely characters, from a billionaire to a beautiful topless waitress, and manifests an enormous financial windfall. But can his material success hold his family together? Mark embarks on the ultimate quest to understand how our values influence events.
Author William Whitecloud brings a dazzling range of knowledge and experience — from a childhood in Swaziland immersed in supernatural worldviews to hermetic philosophy and esoteric speculation on the financial markets — to bear on this practical and magical look at what we really want, and how to get it.